DIYengineer
Good move do more research before you touch the table top. You can learn a great deal about your machine using double sided tape and some scrap wood. As far as end mills I have found carbide end mills start with 1/4 or 1/8 and use 2 flute cutters if you plan on moving to aluminum.
You can find several free calculators for speed and feed calculations on the Internet. I am not near my pc but will send you a link. You can also find recommended feed and speeds on many end mill sites.
You will discover even using this information is only a guide as every machine tends to be specific because of it construction and type of spindle.
Onsrud cutters are the Cadillac as you suggest and I would start with standard carbide end mills first as they are much cheaper and move to the better cutters as you gain experience.
If you have the three coolers you suggest you will be in good shape to start.
Russ